Talk Yourself Happy

By: Tobias Reibber

Do you feel that others don't really respect and appreciate you? Maybe it's because deep down, you really don't respect yourself. It's not always easy to see your own strengths, and allow those qualities to shine for others to see. Self talk is a valuable tool in creating positive reinforcement to boost your self-esteem.

Self talk is that little voice inside your head that comments on everything you do. Confident people hear a voice that says "good job", "you look great today" and "you deserve wonderful things". These people feel smart, attractive and worthy. If you suffer with low self-esteem, the self talk is critical and even demeaning. It can be a constant reminder that you feel inferior to others.

It's important that you realize that the critical, nagging voice is wrong. You already possess everything you need to become a confident person and lead a fulfilling life. The trick is in telling yourself over and over until you realize that it is true. This is one of the hardest things for people with low self-esteem to believe, but it is true. Tell yourself you'll get what you deserve, and you will get it.

Your personal self-talk can determine how you act toward others and, in turn, how they react to you. If you tell yourself and believe that you are truly confident, you'll act in ways that inspire trust in others. Self talk that fuels uncertainty and low confidence, on the other hand, causes you to act in ways that creates doubt in others.

Facing that little voice in your head is not easy, but it must be done if you want to break the vicious cycle. When you hear the negative messages, you must react to them by reinforcing your own positive messages. Positive self talk is the first and most important step in improving your own self-esteem and self worth.

If you feel that you need extra help, or want to learn more about positive self talk, there are many self-improvement videos, CDs and books available. Self-improvement seminars and support groups are also great ways to get the information you need. Check bookstores and search online for available resources.

If you try self talk or other self-improvement methods without success, don't give up. You may need the extra help that a therapist or counselor can provide. These professionals can give you expert advice to boost your self-esteem. Using self-help resources along with counseling sessions will certainly boost your chance of success.

Your time is valuable, and so are you. Don't waste another minute listening to the nagging voice in your head. Tell yourself you're better than that, and get ready to start living the life you deserve.

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Tobias Reibber writes for a variety of popular Internet magazines, on health plan and health and wellness topics.
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