Seven Online Dating Mistakes in Profiles

By: Sara Musfeldt

On three separate occasions I tried online dating. I was terrified the first time and frustrated the second time. The third time I read up on profile writing, talked to my friends about their profiles and experimented with mine until I got the attention I wanted.

Don't make the same mistakes I did, do yourself a favor.

Mistake Number One: Ignore Your Competition I went weeks without ever looking at other women's profiles. It didn't occur to me that I should one-up my competition. It's important to compare yourself to others and make your profile stand out. Do of women in your zip code have a picture of themselves watching a baseball game? If so, maybe you should have a picture of yourself playing the game.

Mistake Number Two: Your Photo Never Changed I picked a new photo and changed my profile a bit every couple of weeks after I found a guy whose profile stayed exactly the same for months. Even though I liked the guy, I didn't write him because I thought if his profile was the same for so long, then he wasn't interested in impressing anyone. I realized that I should spice up my profile from time to time so I didn't get passed by more than once.

Mistake Number Three: Upload the Wrong Photo It's safe to assume that we've all been in relationships before, or have a friend of the opposite sex that likes to hug or hang on us. Avoid photos with other people or photos where it's obvious someone has been cut out.

I think that pictures with puppies and babies are cheap. Nice try.

The photos of you in your bathing suit should, of course, be avoided. You're hot and want to tell someone, which is great, but keep it classy.

Mistake Number Four: Write a Novel The written portions of your profile should never be too long. Our attention spans just won't withstand the 580 words describing your ideal date. Save the novel for the second, third and fourth e-mails because that will certainly let him or her know you're interested.

Mistake Number Five: Played a Broken Record Make yourself sound unique by focusing on your distinctive attributes like, for instance, the fact that your eyes change from hazel to green depending on your outfit. Avoid clich phrases like "I'm laid back" or "My friends say I'm..." Making yourself stand out may be the most important aspect of an online profile.

Mistake Number Six: Wearing Your Heart on Your Sleeve Anyone looking at your profile doesn't care that you were just dumped or that you've been hurt before. Saying things like "I'm looking for Mr. Right after so many Mr. Wrongs" or "I'm looking to have fun after a horrible break-up" only scares away a lot of great suitors who are fearful of your baggage.

Mistake Number Seven: Forget to Get a Second Opinion Let's be honest, it's hard to write about yourself. The best thing you can do is ask a good friend to help you write your profile, or at least review it for you. If that's not an option, there are many profile writing services around to help you out for a small fee.

Online dating is not hard, and shouldn't be scary. If you have the right attitude and keep your expectation realistic-as you should do in all types of dating-the outcome will only be positive.

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About the Author: Sara Musfeldt operates a blog filled with dating stories and dating profile tips for everyone. She has also produced an online dating advice to help singles everywhere find a date.
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